3 reasons why the parenting books have made EVERYTHING worse for you

Parenting is the hardest job on the planet, and it comes without a job description, guidelines or supervision. You are thrust into an unknown world, first with pregnancy, then with a newborn and then with a child who grows and changes all the time…and just expected to know what to do!

It’s no surprise that we turn to and consume so many parenting books…they can often be your only lifeline, helping you to understand your baby’s needs. They tell you all of the practical things that you need to know, how to deal with difficult situations, what your baby needs from you, how to take care of yourself etc.

In those dark times when you feel like you’re screwing everything up, or you just can’t work out the answers, these books can feel like your saviour

So how on earth could they be making EVERYTHING worse?!

Every single book is written by a person…a person with their own views, beliefs, values and opinions. Views, beliefs and opinions based on their experience…not your experience and not necessarily your views, beliefs, values and experience. Different books will give conflicting information…there may even be information that feels conflicting to you within a book. When you are trying to get to the root of what your Little One is struggling with, when you are potentially struggling too, other people’s views and opinions in this volume just add more information to your already busy, overwhelmed head!

Every single book is written with a certain child or certain type of child in mind. There is no book out there written for your individual, unique child. What is written in the books about someone else’s child might include information or an approach that is completely wrong for your child…parts of it might be right, which can be worse, as you might not discount the information that isn’t relevant. No one knows your child like you do, and when techniques or information which are meant for another child, don’t work for yours, it can make you feel like a complete failure…and that there is something wrong with your child.

Every single book is telling you what your child needs, what you need to do. Firstly, each and every child’s situation and needs are individual, and based on so many variables…experiences such as pregnancy and birth, personality, family environment, health, sensitivity levels…there is no way that one book can get it right for each child! Secondly, by telling you what your child is feeling and what you need to do about it, what the book is doing is completely disempowering you as a mum!

So how do you work out how to help and support your Little One?

You have everything you need to work out the answers…you and your Little One!

When you connect to your child and to your own intuition, you access all of the answers you will ever need

It’s a process, and it’s one that needs constant attention and nurturing, but with practice it starts to come so much more naturally

No more useless information!

No more techniques that don’t work!

No more searching for the answers!

No more feeling like a failure!

But it sounds too hard doesn’t it, how do you connect when your head is so full and you’re stressed and overwhelmed?!

I can help!

My job is not to tell you how to parent, but to help you to connect to yourself and your Little One, so that you can parent in the way that you want to…and they need you to.

And if you have any questions at all, please don’t hesitate to get in touch and I’ll be happy to answer them!

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